I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now. when we had sex for the first time, he got really nervous and basically it didn't work out. One reason this happened is because he says he's really nervous because i'm the first girl he cares about and he will eventually get over it and we'll try again. But another reason he says he's not 100% attracted to me and he's very particular....He says the main reason is that he's nervous though. We have come a long way. In the beginning when we were friends, he never wanted to do anything sexual with me, but now we do, just not sex yet. It took a few months of growing to get to really care about each other to start anything sexual, which is good cuz we have a stable and concrete relationship but i do want to have sex with him. Sometimes i bring it up and he says it feels like i am pressuring him, so i try not to bring it up. Should i not bring it up anymore? wait it out??
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Wait.. he said he's not 100% attracted to you? Why would you want to have sex with someone who's not fully attracted to you? =/
He'll probably get over being nervous. He may never be 100% attracted to you though, and you should be evaluating if that's a relationship you think is going to work out.
If he's not ready, and he feels like you're pressuring him when you talk to him about sex, I'd suggest giving a little more time. But it's very hard to not even be allowed to mention it, you need to be able to do that and see in what ways you can help make things more comfortable.
It seems like he don't want to have sex with you bc he's not 100% attracted to you not because he's nervous. Well, that's what I'm getting, anyways. It's hard to have sex with someone you're not attracted to but wouldn't he be attracted to you before you two started dating? His time line is a bit off.
@jeezshoua@xanga - well we've sort of grown being more attracted to each other as we've gotten to know each other better etc.. he reassures me that this is him being immature and we've already come a long way in the way we are physically. we do everything else. idk..
@karmaprincesa@xanga - well he says it doesnt matter to him how attracted to me he is or not. he loves our relationship regardless and he says he needs to mature more..
@chicagogirl - I think it goes a little deeper than him being immature but it seems like he don't want to lay the entire truth out in the open.
Its hard to hear, but don't be with him. His immaturity is an excuse and every girl that is giving 100% should get 100% back in a relationship.