I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years.  We would argue every couple of months but they would be really bad arguments ( he called me so many names (cunt, horrible swearing at me).  He is very impulsive and his behavior is unpredictable.  He has also been disrespectful to my mother.  

 Anyway, it was extremely hard for me to break up after that even though it really was an unhealthy relationship full of disrespect and emotional abuse.  I'm trying to move on and I've become a lot closer to this guy i have known for a few years.  He treats me well and shows so much respect for me.  I feel like i've been so hurt by my ex boyfriend that i am so afraid to accept this sweet guy.  I feel like that the only guy who would ever want to be with me forever would be my ex or any other guy who is abusive.  i know this sounds weird but that's what the relationship has done to me.  I've grown to think that a sweet guy won't stay with me forever.  I don't really know what advice i'm looking for. I'm just scared that i will constantly think about my ex and all the good times we had and miss him, even though i know that it would continue to get worse and worse being with him.  The guy i've become closer to knows all about my previous relationship and he has been hurt as well by his ex girlfriend so he understands my insecurities which i really find amazing.  When will I start to trust a healthy relationship??  I'm honestly afraid that i just won't be able to move on from this abusive guy.  It took me so long to finally end it but then i just think that anything good that comes won't last.

I've been dating "D" for 5 months now.  I love our relationship but he messes with my mind sometimes and he doesn't stop or seem to care so much.  Over the time of getting to know him, i found out he would have random girls he knows on facebook to write on his wall to make him look cool. I know this is immature but i don't really seem any harm in it. It also stems from his insecurity as well.  He has also made a fake profile of a girl who he would wirte on his wall a couple of times as well.  So tonight when i checked my facebook, i saw in my news feed a random girl write on his wall in a very flirtatious way.  I clicked on her and it looked like a fake profile.  When me and "D" talked later that night he said " did u see the comment my tutor left" ( his real tutor, not fake), and so i took this as him wanting me to see the other girls' comment ( since he tells me he likes when i get jealous). I told him i notied the girls' comment and i automatically asked if it was another fake profile since it looked really fake.  I thought he would take it lightly but he didn't. He said that it was a real girl who went to his school.  I played along with it and asked if he would hang out with her. and he was like " yes bitch i can do whatever i want, don't try to control me."  We got into an argument and he hung up on me. I called him back and we talked about it but it really pissed me off.  He just kept putting the blame on me that i'm controlling for asking him if he would hang out with that girl. I told him i only asked that question because i knew it was a fake profile. I thought that after i asked that he would laugh it off and tell me the truth.  After we discussed this and got over our argument, he told me he loves that i'm jealous and passionate about him, which baffles me when he would get so bent out of shape over my question. After all of this, he still hasn't admitted it is a fake profile and i know he likes it when i am upset over other girls because he has in the past made me very jealous and insecure over this friend of his that is a girl. 

Was it wrong of him to lie about this? Is this abusive that he is messing with my mind?

Was I wrong in any of this?

me and my bf are very close and have a pretty good reationship. but what really bothers me is when he brings up this other girl that he is very good friends with. and i get really jealous and posessive of him and upset. he tries to reassure me by teling me he likes me more and i'm better (more dependable and loyal) but he says she's prettier than me but i'm still "better" than her.  he tells me hee doesn't want me to think this is a competition, but that he just needs to let his emotions out and tell me what he's feeling. I understand his point but it bothers me because he goes back and forth with me and thinking i'm the "best". he told me that he wants to play the field when i go back to college ( even though i'm going to be coming home at least every other weekend to see him) but he thinks after that he will be mature and will probably want to be with me. He admits that he is immture but it  really upsets me that i feel unsure about him all the time, yet he tells me i don't need to be unsurebecause even if he is dating someone else he would still "hook up" with me and " be with me". so am i just going to be the "other woman" always?? he says he woul want to marry me but then he gets very fickle. i guess this isn't so atypical of a 19 year old boy but ive grown very attached to him that i'm scared to lose him.  he also tells m that when i go back to school, he doesn't want me to be with any other guy, yet he still wants to be able to be with other girls. my situation sort of sucks but i guess i should be happy with what i do have with him. i don't want to be with anyone else but if he is going to hook up with other ppl while i am away, i guess i should too and move on and have other options so i can be healthy and not so stuck right now.